Your Self Esteem
Copyright © Craig Warren
When you’re learning about something new, it’s easy to
feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of relevant
information available. This informative article should
help you focus on the central points.
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain
self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips
you may to consider as a starter guide to
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and
everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one
point or another. These dart pins will destroy your
self-esteem and pull you down in ways you wont even
remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best
of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of dog eat dog theory where everyone else is
fighting just to get ahead. This is where
non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will
appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch
and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you
get to work too much without getting help from people
concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your
self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be
healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy
competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other Peoples Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossip-mongers, whiners,
backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded,
controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders,
patronizers, bluffers all these kinds of people will
pose bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to
your self-improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes
challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility,
adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes
will make life difficult for a while, it may cause
stress but it will help us find ways to improve our
selves. Change will be there forever, we must be
susceptible to it.
Truthfully, the only difference between you and Self
esteem experts is time. If you’ll invest a little more
time in reading, you’ll be that much nearer to expert
status when it comes to Self esteem.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say ouch! when we experience
pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear.
It might grab you by the tail and swing you around.
Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself
up with all the negativities of the world. In building
self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to
be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics),
your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental
surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy
or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If
your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a
failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll
never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born
leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying
positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines
for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.
God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you George, you
may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and
people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the
battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring
and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof.
Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the
battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet
proof armor ideally means self change. The kind of change
which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change
changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way
Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement
if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have
and what we do. It’s like a flame that should gradually spread
like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop
self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values and
discipline. Self esteem brings about self-improvement, true
assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up
the building blocks of self-esteem? Be positive. Be contented
and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to
compliment. A positive way of living will help you build
self-esteem, your starter guide to self-improvement.
There’s a lot to understand about Self esteem. We were able
to provide you with some of the facts above, but there is
still plenty more to write about in subsequent articles.
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