Copyright © Craig Warren
Sometimes when all our doubts, fears and insecurities
wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of I
wish I was somebody else. More often than not, we think
and believe that someone or rather, most people are
better than us. When in reality, the fact is, most
people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself
at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumante.
You think to yourself, she looks so perfectly calm and
confident. But if you could read thru her transparent
mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you
might just be amazed that she’s thinking are people
talking about why I am seated here alone? Why don’t guys
find me attractive? I don’t like my ankles, they look to
skinny I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say Wooh,
what else could he ask for? He stares at himself at the
mirror and murmur to himself, I hate my big eyes I wonder
why my friends wont talk to me I hope mom and dad would
still work things out.
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for
looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade
places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the
same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves
are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack
of self-confidence and lose hope in self-improvement
because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit
like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth
and you of all people, is the last to know.
One key to self-improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a
trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in
opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to
discuss. Ask questions like do you think I am ill-
mannered? Do I always sound so argumentative? Do I talk
too loud? Do I ever bore you when were together?. In this
way, the other person will obviously know that you are
interested in the process of self-improvement. Lend them
your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give them
answers like Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am! Open
up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want
to help your friend with constructive criticism that will
also help them improve themselves.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says Learning to love
yourself is the greatest love of all. True enough. In
order to love others, you must love yourself too.
Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve
themselves, let them see that you yourself is a
representation and a product of self-improvement. Self
improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other
people and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget
the repetitive thought of, if only I was richer, if only I
was thinner and so on. Accepting your true self is the
first step to self-improvement. We need to stop comparing
ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve
got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We
always wish we had better things, better features, better
body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for
people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and
loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole
world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the
virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to
improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and
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